7 Things to Say When Someone Starts Playing the Victim

1. "Let's stay focused on the actual issue."

2. "I'm not here to argue feelings—I'm here to address behavior."

3. "I understand you feel hurt. That doesn't cancel what happened."

4. "We can't solve anything if everything becomes about you."

5. "Being uncomfortable doesn't mean you're being attacked."

6. "You're allowed to feel how you feel. I'm still allowed to set boundaries."

7. "If accountability feels like an attack, there's deeper work to be done."

Related Notes

• [[People Lack Accountability]] - Understanding why some conversations are exhausting
• [[20 Types of People You Cannot Be Friends With]] - Identifying toxic patterns in relationships